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Does it matter what others think of you?

 

I’ve been on the planet for a while now and in this time I have observed people around me, and either have been amazed at what I have seen or saddened on many levels. As a child I was very different for many reasons, but mainly because I was raised in a family that basically ran a zoo out of our home.   It was a wildlife rehabilitation project and we raised and released wild and exotic animals that had been injured, or were in some sort of need.  In addition to this, my mother was the Irish Setter rescuer for The Cincinnati Animal Rescue League. We had many monkey’s including a chimpanzee that my parents rescued from a bar who we needed to detox from alcohol and cigarettes. We had pythons, boa constrictors, chinchillas, raccoons, birds of prey, etc, etc, etc. Every season the animals would come and go. My mom once told me that I really wouldn’t ever be able to have girls over to the house because they would not understand, and for the most part she was right.   I was often called weird and I simply did not really fit in.

When I think back at some of the memories, they were hilarious, but I can remember the pain of being judged and I was a sensitive kid.  I was someone who was always involved in comforting and feeding animals, and cleaning their cages, and it made me a very empathetic person.

In many ways, I just wanted to fit in with the normal kids. But when I look back now I realize what an amazing adventure my life had been.  How many people have had the experiences that I have had?  But as a child and teenager, I cared deeply about what others thought and it caused me great anxiety.  I wish now that I had been able to ignore what other people thought, and instead, I wish I had been able to focus on the positive things other people had to say.

It’s funny how I carried the trait of worrying about what others thought of me into adulthood. It was reinforced in so many ways.  In fact, as I continued in charitable and non-profit work with humans throughout my adulthood, I started to realize it was an epidemic not unusual to me. I felt an obligation to inspire people in my world to believe in themselves and not to worry about what other people thought.  I realized how silly it was for any of us to stress over the judgement of others, because life is short and it would be best spent finding out what is important to ourselves and going after that!  As far as the judgement of others?

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It doesn’t matter, everyone has a right to an opinion, but most of the time I’m learning that we should keep our opinions to ourselves.

It’s illogical to believe someone else should know what’s best for your life. As long as you aren’t hurting other people, doing anything unethical or immoral, why should anyones opinion about your life matter more than what your heart is telling you?

My mission is to be true to my heart, and to make my life count. I just so happen to derive a tremendous amount of happiness by encouraging others to be happy as well.  So consider yourself encouraged!

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ICU!  Do you see YOU? What do others think of you? Does it Matter?

Take a moment to answer these questions, you may be surprised at your answers!

I would love to hear from you.  Please feel free to share your stories with me!

The Sarah Hale Folger Project seeks to inspire greatness in humanity by sharing inspiring stories with the world. Please contact me here on my blog or through my website at http://www.SarahHaleFolger.com

Sarah Hale Folger is a Creative Consultant, Blogger, Artist & Singer. PLEASE make sure to subscribe to my blog today so you never miss the next thing happening in the world the way I see it! Please feel free to comment, share and subscribe to my blog!!! Thanks!!

OH NO! I didn’t get the memo!

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Who said life after 50 was the beginning of the countdown to the end?-how morbid!

I cringe when I hear people talking about life as though it is almost over and they are just in their 50’s. I mean, I know 80 year olds who put me to shame and never stop moving and trying new things!  That’s the ticket!  Refusing to accept that you are old, at least in your mind! What is age anyway? I know, I know, excuses, excuses. Well, if you could decide what team you played on would it be the winning team, or the losing team?  It’s all in the mental approach.  It’s hard, I know, I have struggled with emotional pain most of my life for various reasons. You have to put your foot down at some point on one side or the other.  Either you win or you lose.  It’s that simple.  Now I feel it coming, all the really sad stories out there which are true and valid.  Real sicknesses, real trauma… you are not those I am speaking to with these words.  Hugs to those of you who are there right now, I can only say from experience, I want you to make it across that tumultuous stream you have fallen into against your will.  May love come to you in some form and carry you safely to the other side!! Hugs! But for those of you who are lazy, fatigued or lacking inspiration for your own life I say, STOP doing that!  It’s no fun, wrong team!

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I have spent most of my life trying to make other people happy and making my happiness contingent on theirs. There are many reasons why and none of them really matter in the end, I am who I am.

I was raised in a family that ran a non-profit for wildlife, dear God that is the story that needs more voices to tell than just mine. Sooner or later I will be interviewing as many willing participants in my family as I can arm wrestle into submission!

I also spent many years working for other non-profits.  So I understand giving till you are running on fumes, but love fills up your tank! But in your 50’s you say to yourself, “Self, time to take care of you! Cheers to you!” And Self says, “Cheers back at ya! and Cheers to the ones I love!” I’m jumping into the universe!!

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But I digress, what I really want to say is that I will be writing fast and furious when the mood strikes.  I have always had lots to say and there will most likely be misspelled words, so forgive me ahead of time!  I remember my Uncle once telling me that as a little girl I was always curious and asking questions. This still rings true. I will be posting my interviews as they unfold as well, I can’t wait!

So here I am, living on the edge of uncertainty, letting go of fear and positioning myself to view the true beauty all around me. You see, the way I look at it, I know the human brain tends to focus on the negative. Just look at the news and the storylines of movies! Death, mayhem, fear, oh no! Someone save us! I say, like a salmon, go against the stream and reach for the higher perspective and save yourself! Its time to get happy!!

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You in?  I am, and I am cheering for you too!!!!

Stay with me, I have no idea where I am going moment to moment, but I am leaning towards an image I have in my mind.  It’s one that takes the lemons and makes lemonade! It’s green pastures and adventure on the way!  I can see me on a white horse with my sword raised to the sky! My horse has wings! I will fly, I will be free!

So if you are with me on this journey , yeah!  Join me in saying what my favorite childhood book said to do and say-“I think I can, I think I can, I think I can!” Yes, we too can be like the little engine that could!!!

Credit: Photos courtesy of Vic Pichette; videomarketingstrategies.net

The Sarah Hale Folger Project seeks to inspire greatness in humanity by sharing inspiring stories with the world. Please contact me here on my blog or through my website at http://www.SarahHaleFolger.com

Sarah Hale Folger is a Creative Consultant, Blogger, Artist & Singer. PLEASE make sure to subscribe to my blog today so you never miss the next thing happening in the world the way I see it! Please feel free to comment, share and subscribe to my blog!!! Thanks!!

The Power of the Red Dress

 

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So here I am, 53, the mother of 3 amazingly beautiful daughters, and 3 fabulous grandchildren. Did you hear my heart go BOOM, boom, BOOM, boom, BOOM? These giant blessings in my life are my greatest gifts. Yet here I am in my middle years, imagining myself with my sword brandished high!! (The pen is mightier than the sword, so it is my sword, well okay, it’s a keyboard not an actual pen, but you get my meaning!!) I find myself embarking on a new career, which is taking all my life’s experiences and making something magical appear from that soil. At least that is the goal!!  Seriously, I may be crazy, I certainly am flying by the seat of my pants, but hey you know I’ve heard it said, “Jump and the net will appear!” Well, I’ve jumped out into the universe 3 times in less than 2 years. Part of that was I left a job I loved and went through skin cancer radiation treatment, which really rocked my mental world and not to mention made me feel weak and lost. I arose out of all this with a renewed awakening.  My perspective just totally shifted. I mean when I think back at all the phases of my life, I feel like a cat with 9 lives. I refuse to count what numbered life I am on now because I am hoping I have a few left in me!  But seriously, when you cry and sweat and agonize,over life’s upsetting  events and then you cross over to the other side, you say, hey I’m happy to be on this planet and I want to choose to be happy, successful and to take all the lessons I have learned and make something fun and exciting come from it all.

As this blog goes on I am sure my old stories will resurrect and new ones will emerge.  There is nothing I hate more than negativity, panic and doubt! ARGHHHH!!! If I were a super hero I would slay all those nasty villains! So this is why I am focused on the power color red today.  As my 50+ modeling shoots emerge  I will use some of the images to empower you to find the inner goddess in you and to bring her forth!!! Someone once told me after I got off a stage where my old band had played, that it was dangerous for me to wear a red dress. LOL!  Well, I never thought red was a color I should wear but after that comment I encourage you too to purposefully wear something red and have your own dangerous photo shoot!!  Being an artist, I am a big lover of color.  I will use the various meanings of the color red to describe the photos I have selected. (Thanks to JENNIFER BOURN)

In different cultures red carries different meanings. In some cultures, red represents purity, joy, and celebration and is a traditional color worn by brides. In China, red is used for good luck and represents happiness and prosperity. In South Africa, red is the color of mourning and in Russia red is associated with communism because in history, they used a red flag when they overthrew the Tsar. In the United States, red, when combined with white and blue represent patriotism and pride of country. (Well,that was interesting!)

 

 

The color red is a highly visible color that is able to focus attention quickly and get people to make quick decisions, which is one of the reasons fire trucks and fire engines are usually painted red. Flashing red lights mean danger or emergency, while stop signs and stop lights use the color red to alert drivers about the dangers of the intersection. (Better look out when you see red!)

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Too much red causes loss of temper, agitation, anger, and overbearing, demanding, and oppressive behaviors. Too little red causes lethargic, cautious, whiny, and manipulative feelings. To get out of control emotions under control add green, the opposite of red. To get rid of exhaustion, add more red. (I mean, I think we may be putting a lot of power to control in color, wouldn’t you say?)

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Red, the color of blood and fire, is associated with meanings of love, passion, desire, heat, longing, lust, sexuality, sensitivity, romance, joy, strength, leadership, courage, vigor, willpower, rage, anger, danger, malice, wrath, stress, action, vibrance, radiance, and determination. (Wow, talk about yin and yang!!!)

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The color red is an intense color that is packed with emotion ranging from passionate, intense love to anger and violence — representing both cupid and the devil. It is a hot, strong, stimulating color that represents excitement and energy.

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Studies show that the color red can create physical effects such as elevated blood pressure, enhanced libido, increased respiratory rates, enhanced metabolism, increased enthusiasm, higher levels of energy, and increased confidence.

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Red is assertive, daring, determined, energetic, powerful, enthusiastic, impulsive, exciting, and aggressive. Red represents physical energy, lust, passion, and desire. It symbolizes action, confidence, and courage. The color red is linked to the most primitive physical, emotional, and financial needs of survival and self-preservation.

 

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So listen ladies of a certain age, whatever it takes for you to become all you were meant to be, lies within you!!  We were all dealt a certain hand, it’s up to us to choose to play that hand, to trade in some cards, or to fold.  What will it be?  I suggest highly that we dig deep and come up positive!  I know life can be terrifying and we never really know what we are doing, there are just too many variables.  But stick with me and come on my journey with me!  I am simply taking the next step each day that I awake and then the one after that.  Stop believing whatever set of lies it is you tell yourself and if you are a positive woman with something to give please post a comment!  If you are down in the dumps its pretty clear that even if the only red thing you own is a dish towel, find away to tuck it in and wear it, go stand in front of a mirror, put some red lipstick on and smile at yourself, or at least laugh at yourself!  Its time to go for the red!  Remember ladies, you want to develop those brass ovaries!  It’s your precious life, don’t let anything stop you from fighting for the best one it can be!!

The Sarah Hale Folger Project seeks to inspire greatness in humanity by sharing inspiring stories with the world. Please contact me here on my blog or through my website at http://www.SarahHaleFolger.com

Sarah Hale Folger is a Creative Consultant, Blogger, Artist & Singer. PLEASE make sure to subscribe to my blog today so you never miss the next thing happening in the world the way I see it! Please feel free to comment, share and subscribe to my blog!!! Thanks!!

 

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“I Rise”

Surely as a cloud begins to form in a long clear sky, stillness is being gently startled by a warm breeze. My eyes open as I feel the movement gently caressing my chin as it tunes my face to the sky. How long have I been laying here sleeping? I have forgotten what I was waiting for. I feel my heart beating. I feel the blood coursing through my veins. I feel the air filling my lungs. Was I dead? Am I resurrected? I have no memory of how I got here. Where am I? Slowly I rise, first to my elbow, then to sitting up. Breathing too fast I wait a moment and count my breaths until the rhythm soothes me. I pull myself to my knees and lean forward, my fists grasp the sand. How long have I been here in this desert? I dare not look back to remember, for the past is what brought me here and left me for dead. I feel no allegiance to what has long abandoned me. I will not waste my mind on trying to remember. No, I will trust that only the good lessons will prevail. I will pay attention only to the beating of my heart as to whether I should walk this way or that. This sense that lies within my soul shall guide me now. Not the hand that drags or the one that pushes me, but the one from within me shall I follow now. I know this now, as I kneel in this shifting sand, that the winding road beginning to appear before me, is waiting for me. The warm breeze swirls around me and I stretch out my arms and I think I almost see forming wings.They fill up with the breeze which has become a greater force and I look up and the sun is rising, color floods the horizon, and a voice inside me says,“Rise woman, RISE!” In a flash I am standing, and as I stand fully aware, fully seeing, a path appears just a steps length away. I am beginning to see shapes forming in the distance, some sort of mystical homeland. Impulsively I step forward, my heart is hungry, starving in fact and I know it! My foot hits the path and suddenly I cannot see more than one step away. I stop in fear, wondering, was what I saw an illusion, a mirage in this desert? My heart beats desperately, I feel it will leap from my chest. Some time passes, I let the shock of all of these things pass through me and feel it fade. For in this storm a voice speaks to me, and it comes from within.  Just take the next step, and the next step, and the one after that. And it’s then I realize I cannot know more than I can be responsible for in this very moment. I trust the path before me is fatefully calling me and I trust me, for the first time, I know I will know, and that’s enough.

The Sarah Hale Folger Project seeks to inspire greatness in humanity by sharing inspiring stories with the world. Please contact me here on my blog or through my website at http://www.SarahHaleFolger.com

Sarah Hale Folger is a Creative Consultant, Blogger, Artist & Singer. PLEASE make sure to subscribe to my blog today so you never miss the next thing happening in the world the way I see it! Please feel free to comment, share and subscribe to my blog!!! Thanks!!

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